[CentOS] socket: write vs send

On CentOS 5.4, Linux 2.6.18-164.6.1.el5 #1 SMP Tue Nov 3 16:18:27 EST 2009 i686 i686 i386 GNU/Linux

In man 2 send I find:

The send() call may be used only when the socket is in a connected state (so that the intended recipient is known). The only difference between send() and write() is the presence of flags. With zero flags parameter, send() is equivalent to write().

In some complex server software, if the client disconnects: send: delivers errno == ECONNRESET but write: crashes the server process.

So it is not really equivalent. Any thoughts on this?

Thanks, Mike.