On Thu, 5 May 2011, Lamar Owen wrote:
On Thursday, May 05, 2011 07:19:40 AM Dag Wieers wrote:
I am sorry for this. Because this mail arrived in my inbox, I was confident Jean-Marc was mailing me privately. So my response is how I reply privately. I did not intend to send this to the list.
As much as I respect your hard work on RPMforge over the years, I must comment on this.
If one replies differently in public than in private, it will leak publicly at some point, and the duplicity will be found out. E-mails, once sent, are written records, and can be copied and sent around all over. It is best to have the same face publicly as privately; that can either mean restraint in private or totally 'letting it all hang out' in public, as the sender of the message sees fit.
Having and raising five children has taught me extraordinarily valuable lessons on this, especially on how 'talking behind another's back' always comes back around, and always creates ill will.
There's nothing wrong with what I said. Nor the content, nor the tone. I stated the same thing publically as well, both here as elsewhere (blog, mailinglist, ...). The "double standards" theme is probably because of "So my response is how I reply privately." which is not what I meanted to say, I was simply pointing out that my reply was intended privately. But English is not my native language.
The only reason I apologised is because I don't think it should have been sent to the list, to not aggravate others needlessly.